Happiness is all your mind

Are you having a good day?

Why?

If you are having a good day, why are you having a good day?

Or if you are having a bad day, why are you having a bad day?

So I have one more question for you.

This should be the easiest one of all.

My last question is

Tomorrow, would you rather have a good day, or would you rather have a bad day?

What about the day after tomorrow?

This time next week?

A good day, or a bad day?

So that last question, like i said, is probably the easiest one for us answer, because We know the answer to that, don't We?

You want to have a good day, everyday.

So this is really speaking to the type of happiness that We all wish for in our heart of hearts.

We are have a good day when We are happy, and We want to be happy everyday.

there's never a day when We don't want to be happy.

 

Much of the time our mind is like a balloon in the wind.

blown here and there by external circumstances.

Do you know that feeling?

when things are going well, when they are going our way, we feel happy.

But then if something goes wrong, then our happy feeling disappers.

As long as our reasons for why We had a good day are a list of external conditions, then we are not going to have this stable happiness that we all want.

Does that make sense to you?

Because if that's what our happiness depends upon -- because we can not control people and circumstances every single day --  then our happiness will be in the hands of others, won't it?

it will be at the whim of our circumstances.

So if you really wish to have a good day everyday, we have got two things we need to do.

So the first thing that we need to do is We need to stop outsourcing our hapiness and outsourcing our unhappiness on the oeople and circumstances.

In other words, we need to stop attributing our happiness to what's going on externally, and we need to stop blaming others, for our unpappiness.

So for as long as we do that, as long as we're making it the job of people and circumstances to make us happy or as long as we're making it their fault when we are unhappy, our happiness will be very unstable, and illusive.

Our second job is to actively cultivate a source of peace and a source of hapiness coming from inside our own mind.

So here's something I want to commit to memory.

"Happiness and unhappiness are state of mind; and therefore their real causes cannot be found outside the minds."

 

 

--Gen kelsang Nyema at TEDxGreenville 2014--